I recently attended a teacher's conference (for Science Olympiad) at Weber State University. While there I sat next to a woman I'll call Jo.
I introduced myself and asked her where she was from and what she taught. Jo isn't a teacher, she is a parent with 3 young boys and wants to be involved in Science at the school. She stays at home and has a degree in Chemistry; she's not LDS.
When she discovered that I had attended BYU she said: "You don't fit the mold of a typical LDS woman to me."
"Why is that?" I asked.
"LDS girls only attend BYU to get married and if they receive a degree it's only in Home Economics so they can be better stay at home moms." Jo paused, "That's what your church teaches right? That girls don't need an education, they just stay home and have kids."
My response: "No. The LDS faith promotes learning. Everyone is encouraged to receive a good education not only in spiritual education but also in secular."
The conversation continued throughout my two day stay in Weber. I explained that I was allowed to think and that I had decided for myself that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is true. (I wasn't forced into it, or coerced.)
Then she brought up a few things that concerned me...
For most of my childhood I was a quiet child, shy. I recall being scared of talking to people who were not LDS. I remember thinking they were all criminals and scary. (I've learned otherwise now.)
Jo explained that in her community all non LDS are in, what she called "pods". Groups of them get together for parent groups, clubs etc. She cannot get any of the LDS people around her to come or talk to her. "There is a barrier. Maybe it's the garment layer. I can only get to know them so much and then no more."
I have attended an LDS Church in another area(outside of Utah). I remember being instantly invited and welcomed. Are we the same in Utah?
I know I need to improve.
I was shocked by a few of the misconceptions some of which I'd heard before and others I hadn't. But what worried me the most was the realization that I still sit inside my house staring out my window at the 'non-LDS' people. Only becoming friends with the people in my ward, because it's safer, easier. (The Utah Bubble, I think I'll call it a fishbowl-but even I struggle looking through the glass.)
Overall this was a very positive conversation and I really enjoyed talking to Jo. I wasn't trying to convert her or force her into anything. I was just there to answer her questions to the best of my ability.
So just curious: How do you respond to a new friend you've made and leave a positive impression of the LDS faith when their previous experience is that we won't even leave our yard to say hello?